I’m so old I remember when we didn’t have air-conditioning or television. We lived in Jacksonville, Florida, and nine months out of twelve, it was hot—inside and outside the house.
Houses were constructed of wood, with large windows and screens, sash type windows you could slide up and down for maximum air flow. The floors were hardwood and off-grade, so air could circulated under, over, around, and through.
Daddy bought a window-box fan that fit just inside a window to draw air into the house. Of course, that meant we slept with all the windows open. None of us thought it strange to live in a world without artificial cooling. A world where our home was always unlocked. A world where God, home, and family were the basis for a great and godly America.
However, on hot summer afternoons, cooking supper over an open flame gas stove turned the kitchen into a sauna. Supper was the main meal of the day at our house, except on Sunday. Mealtime was always an event and Mama was a wonderful cook and our family loved to eat.
Finger-lickin’southern fried chicken—crispy, but melt in your mouth delicious, fried in her iron skillet. Picked-that-morning green beans, seasoned with a hock of ham, simmered on the back-burner. While potatoes waited to be mashed and slathered with butter. Real butter. Homemade biscuits—is there any other
kind—baked to perfection in a hot oven. And her fresh baked pound cake cooled on a cake rack, waiting to be dressed with sugar-sweet strawberries and whipped cream.
The aromas titillated-the-taste-buds, but the kitchen was hot enough to melt wax. And me.
Mama told me over and again, if you can’t stand the heat, get out of the kitchen.
Of course, she would be red-faced and sweating as her words blossomed to a full-fledged-guilt-cloud that dumped on my head. But like a good little southern girl, I cowgirled-up and stayed in the inferno to see the meal devoured, the dishes washed, and put away. My hands were the dishwashers, not some humming machine.
Years passed and this old saying twisted to a new meaning, inferring if we couldn’t take the pressure of difficult situations, decisions, and actions, we’d better get out of whatever situation needed solving.
I now have central air-conditioning, electric ranges, and refrigerators. But we still face fiery fumes of friction that require boldness, courage, and strength outside ourselves to act
upon. Family problems, illnesses, job loss, financial difficulties, failing relationships, all cause great stress. And many folks decide rather than stay and solve their problems, it’s just too hot. They can’t stand the heat. So they leave.
“Be strong and courageous, for you shall give this people possession of the land which I swore to their fathers to give them. Only be strong and very courageous; be careful to do according to the law which Moses My servant commanded you; do not turn from it to the right or to the left, so that you may have success wherever you go” (Joshua 1:6-7 NAS).

This generation is no different than generations in the past. There are always going to be difficulties, distresses and dreadful decisions that must be resolved. But this generation no longer feels a sense of responsibility to untangle the messes we’ve created. We kick-the-issue down the path to a future where someone else will have to deal with the heat of our foolishness.
Problems require solutions, not can-kicks.
We’ve lost the ability to reach acceptable solutions in the hot,
sticky kitchens of life. We’ve accepted personal and federal exorbitant debt as normal. Living beyond our means, we’ve become cowards who refuse to parent our off-springs. Parents who’d rather be their child’s friend than their hero. Our elected officials are more focused on the next election and paybacks, rather than the security and future of America.
Our government has so transgressed the Law of the Land, we are clinging to the cliffs of no return. And Congress, up to this
point, has become impotent, incompetent, and ignorant.
When cooks leave life’s sizzling kitchens, families cease to follow and obey God, parents divorce, children become pawns or predators, businesses go bankrupt, the heart and soul of our foundation cracks, corruption and crime creep in among us like poison, government crumbles, and anarchy and tyranny become the law of the land.
We need godly folks, strong courageous folks. Folks willing to
cowboy-up in the home, in schools, in businesses, the church, the State House, and in Washington, while there’s a glimmer of heat in America’s kitchens. While there’s still food to cook. And, while we still have memory and know-how, to repent of our rebellion toward God, and devote ourselves to repairing our crumbling walls of freedom.
“Finally, be strong in the Lord, and in the strength of His might. Put on the full armor of God, that you may be able to stand firm against the schemes of the devil. For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the powers, against the world forces of this darkness, against the spiritual forces of wickedness in the heavenly places. Therefore, take up the full armor of God, that you may be able to resist in the evil day, and having done everything, to stand firm” (Ephesians 6:10-13 NAS).
Love this one, Diane. Miss our mamas and their cooking-:)
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Mama left her recipe box. I’ve given it to Michael (who loves to cook), and made copies for Andy’s daughter, Lisa, and have her cookbooks for me. Which begs the question, what are we preparing to leave for our kiddos?
DiAne
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I’m always concerned when I see the give-up-too-soon attitude in marriage, DiAne – one of my missions as a ‘divorce lawyer’ is to provide options and suggest resources for those who may not be aware there’s another way to get through their difficulties.
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Shel, I love your blogs and forward them regularly to younger couples, hopping they can avoid some of the potholes and tsunamis of life. Thanks for all you do and for reading and responding to my blog.
DiAne
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Thanks so much for sharing, DiAne – much appreciated!
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Reblogged this on The Conquering Mom.com and commented:
Yes. This is it.
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Thanks, Katharine! 🙂
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This was so good, DiAne! It is so true! And when I’m canning, it doesn’t matter if the AC is on or not–it’s still so hot!
I do remember that heat. Many times, on a really hot summer day, it was cooler outdoors than in that kitchen. It must’ve been about 120 degrees on some days. And yes, it would melt candles. Yes, it would. And we really could not use our fan because it would blow out the gas stove…
At night we would sleep on the floor–the coolest place–all five of us in the living room–the coolest room–with the only fan we owned oscillating across our hot little bodies. How did our parents even sleep? Well, some mornings we’d awaken decidedly hot and sticky because the fan had removed itself to our parents’ room. Ha!
But before electricity (and that is before my time) what did they do? Learn to sleep hot, is what. The wealthy built tall houses with an opening at the highest peak to let heat rise and create a draft from outdoors.
Few people realize how humid Missouri is, but we used to know. 🙂
Thanks for this fond, yes fond, memory.
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Thanks Katharine, I believe it’s up to us (those of us who remember these things) to let the young people know from whence they came (cliche alert). And yes, my new modern kitchen is still warm when canning and baking, but at least the AC takes the humidity out of the air. We had a sun porch, screened in, but on the hottest of summer nights we could sleep out there.
DiAne
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